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Such a face! Daddy Bones@ age 12, gracing the book's cover.

 

 How to Keep Your Sanity Intact When a Loved One Needs a Nursing Home  

It’s estimated that more than 50 million people provide care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend during any given year.

Studies show that extremely stressed caregivers can age or die prematurely. 

“Bette Davis said ‘old age is no place for sissies,’ but caring for an older loved one isn’t for the feint of heart, either,” says Bones. “I loved my dad and we were very close, but the strain of ‘putting’ him in a nursing home was so overwhelming for all of us that I felt like I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown.”

Becoming aware of some of the don’ts” of long-term care can make daily life easier for nursing home residents and for their family caretakers,” she notes.

Bones offers some key examples from her Nursing Home Checklist:

· Ask clergy, family, and friends - especially those in the health care field - to recommend outstanding nursing homes.

· When touring a nursing home, ask other visitors for frank feedback about the facility. Don’t just inspect the “sample” room, look into residents’ rooms to check for cleanliness.

· Assure your loved one that you will be their ongoing advocate.

· Visit your loved one often and at varying times of the day - and night. This alerts all of the caregivers that you are keeping an eye on your loved one.

· Get to know the staff, especially your loved one’s immediate caregivers.

· Thank the employees for the thankless job that they do.

· Put your loved one’s name on all their belongings, including clothes and personal products. Never leave money or valuables in their room.

· Place a quilt, photos and other small touches to create a “homey” room.

· Put a brief bio and picture of your loved one at the entrance of their room to “introduce” them to staff and visitors.

. Bring old photos when you visit your loved one - it will give you something to look at if conversation lags.

. Bring different edible treats to spice-up the resident's menu.

 

 


 

 

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Monday
Aug242009

LOOK IT UP...

"How do you spell it?" we used to ask our Mom when we were forming a word but weren't quite sure if it was correct.

"Look it up," was her prompt and consistent reply.

It was an effective means of getting our lazy butts to use the dictionary (and now that I reflect on these touching family moments, it occurs to me that maybe dear old Marie didn't quite know how to spell the word, either...brilliant strategy!).

At any rate, I think "looking it up" has gone the way of typewriter ribbons and natural family planning. Thanks to spellcheck and Twitter, who needs to spell? Add to that the purposeful misspelling of popular movies - the latest, "Inglourious Basterds" and before that, "Pursuit of Happyness" - and you have grammarians who are fanning themselves with their Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary to keep from pasing out.

And it's not only words, it's punctuation, too. In England, the city of London recently decided to drop apostrophes from all its street signs, saying they were confusing and old-fashioned.

In my neck of the woods, spelling errors abound in public places. When I told a Postal employee that there was a mistake on a sign in the post office, she crisply informed me that someone "must have stolen the letters." Oh. My bad...

Don't get me wrong, I speak as one who has been struggled mightily with spelling my entire life. I recently published a book and a good friend noted five errors in its 200+ pages. I almost wept when she told me about the typos that persisted even after I edited, rewrote and polished the entire tome at least 20 times.

So I don't point a finger, I just offer empathy, ask you to set a good example for the youngsters and provide this humble advice from Mommy Bones: when in doubt, look it up. And that counts for all you movie directors, too. Quentin, are ya listening?

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aarrgh!

September 22, 2009 | Unregistered Commentermaryfran

i'm sorry!

September 22, 2009 | Unregistered Commentermaryfran

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