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Such a face! Daddy Bones@ age 12, gracing the book's cover.

 

 How to Keep Your Sanity Intact When a Loved One Needs a Nursing Home  

It’s estimated that more than 50 million people provide care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend during any given year.

Studies show that extremely stressed caregivers can age or die prematurely. 

“Bette Davis said ‘old age is no place for sissies,’ but caring for an older loved one isn’t for the feint of heart, either,” says Bones. “I loved my dad and we were very close, but the strain of ‘putting’ him in a nursing home was so overwhelming for all of us that I felt like I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown.”

Becoming aware of some of the don’ts” of long-term care can make daily life easier for nursing home residents and for their family caretakers,” she notes.

Bones offers some key examples from her Nursing Home Checklist:

· Ask clergy, family, and friends - especially those in the health care field - to recommend outstanding nursing homes.

· When touring a nursing home, ask other visitors for frank feedback about the facility. Don’t just inspect the “sample” room, look into residents’ rooms to check for cleanliness.

· Assure your loved one that you will be their ongoing advocate.

· Visit your loved one often and at varying times of the day - and night. This alerts all of the caregivers that you are keeping an eye on your loved one.

· Get to know the staff, especially your loved one’s immediate caregivers.

· Thank the employees for the thankless job that they do.

· Put your loved one’s name on all their belongings, including clothes and personal products. Never leave money or valuables in their room.

· Place a quilt, photos and other small touches to create a “homey” room.

· Put a brief bio and picture of your loved one at the entrance of their room to “introduce” them to staff and visitors.

. Bring old photos when you visit your loved one - it will give you something to look at if conversation lags.

. Bring different edible treats to spice-up the resident's menu.

 

 


 

 

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Wednesday
Jul222009

(Lotsa) Child's Play

Boo hiss on the morons who gave the visiting campers the evil eye at the swim club outside of Philadelphia. Where do they think they are, in the cast of Stepford Wives? Imbeciles. No excuse for their bigotry. But I think there is one factor that people seem to have overlooked in this case: 60+ kids. Have you been around a crowd of 60 kids lately? God love them and all, but 60 kids together at camp can make some noise. Do you remember being at camp as a kid? You're with your buddies and your parents aren't around and you're revved-up for fun - loud fun! So if you're lounging at your pool and 60 kids come in with eight camp counselors, you're gonna notice. If those kids are white, black, brown, green, striped or polka-dotted, you're probably going to say to yourself, "Uh, oh, there goes my quiet time" - or that's what I'd think. Keep in mind that I love kids and I was, for a brief period of time, a kid myself, so it's nothing personal. It's just that 60 kids reminds me of my crowded grade school class where 50 or more young students were squeezed into one classroom - it was a kid-concentrated mass that eventually sent more than one nun to a "rest home." So let's say it once again, those people who looked at the campers in horror because of the color of their skin, get off your racist horse and join the 21st century. To the moron manager who agreed to let 60 extra kids in the pool, where was your brain? Kids, gotta love 'em, just don't want to spend a summer afternoon with five dozen of them.

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